Think before you do : When you are facing a difficult situation, take as much time as possible before reacting or as a decision needs to be taken. This gives you time to get your emotions under control and to weigh your options, and it is inevitable that no matter what position you are in.
- If you can, take the time to evaluate the situation, or write down how you are feeling. Try to identify at least one positive thing about the situation, whether small or big.Changing your thinking in this small form, you can make a big difference.
- Remember to take at least 10 seconds to set before speaking. Even if your girlfriend told you that she wants to break up with you, you can take 10 seconds to calm yourself before replying. In the end, you will be happy that you did.
Examine all attitudes: In your calm state, think clearly about the situation before deciding what you need to do. What exactly has happened? What are the possible routes to take? There is always more than one way to handle a problem.
- A friend has asked you to take part in an illegal activity and you are unable to choose between being loyal to your friend and obeying the law. Weigh the pros and cons of both things. Is he really your friend, if he is asking you to break the law? Or does law stand in the way of right justice?
Determine and follow the correct path: Use your discretion as your guide. Research suggests that people who make decisions based on their instincts are more satisfied with their decisions than those who weigh things carefully. Sometimes the answer is clear and sometimes it is very difficult to find the right thing. Do not let the problem ripen and get out of hand; Make a decision and go for it.
- Those you trust, consult them. If you are unable to make a decision, then it is perfectly okay to seek the opinion of others. Just don’t force them to do wrong things.
- Think about what your trusted person will do. It should be high-level, honest and good-hearted. What will that person do?
- Finally, you will need to take responsibility for your actions. Take the best decision you can – something you can live with.